Key Qualities of the Nine Knot

Chief characteristic

The chief characteristic of the Nine fixation is passivity. The Nine was overwhelmed by the dynamics present in their childhood. In order to survive they became passive, numb, and comfortable. When life gets tough they get sleepy, or lazy, as a way of avoiding difficulty. Nines seem to be very relaxed and easy going. People often feel comfortable around Nines.

Primary emotion

The primary emotion of the Nine fixation is numbness. Rather than feeling intense emotions of any kind, they go numb. It is like they can suddenly become unplugged from the energy source. When this occurs their eyes can glaze over.

Body type

The body type of the Nine is stiff but mushy and unformed.

Talking style

Their talking style is the saga; long winded, tangential stories.

Distorted Personal belief

I am inferior. I can’t handle the world. If I can get comfortable and make others comfortable maybe I can get by. Getting angry or having needs is not safe.

World view

The world is not loving, I must not get involved or I will be annihilated.

Primary fear

The Nine fixation is afraid of expressing anger. They fear they may become homicidal if they let their anger out.

Avoidance

Nines avoid conflict, even disagreement. They would rather say yes and then not show up than say no.

Coping Mechanism

Nines anesthetize themselves becoming dull, and numb; they veg out to cope with life. They use TV, drugs, alcohol, food, reading, any habitual activity, to avoid feeling the intensity of being alive.

Childhood

Nines were overwhelmed by the dramas in their childhood. They Learned to stay in the background, not express or be angry, and to repress their own will.