Key Qualities of the Three Knot

Chief characteristic

The chief characteristic of the Three fixation is efficiency. They keep active and productive to avoid feeling any emotions. Emotions are just sticky impediments to success. Their need for success over rides all else, because that is how they feel lovable, valuable, and worthy.

Primary emotion

The primary emotion is deceit; the process of hiding all emotion except what is needed to be successful in each situation. The Three fixation will fabricate emotion when it is needed.

Body type

Tight, rigid.

Appearance

Threes try to look perfect, in s stylized way. Their clothes always look new, like they are unworn. Their faces tend to look young like they are unworn. This is because they don’t really engage life.

Talking style

Sharp, abrasive, brittle. They love to talk about their accomplishments and successes. They seem to be selling themselves.

Distorted Personal belief

I am separate from others, I must keep doing.

World view

There is no unity, my actions are separate from others, and therefore don’t really effect them.

Primary fear

Threes' primary fear is not being worthy of being loved. This is so terrifying that they cover it with doing. If they stop doing they lose their whole sense of self and become terrified.

Avoidance

Failure is perceived as the worst possible thing that could happen. Even when a loved one has difficulty they may see this as getting in the way of their success. They may be more concerned with how it will make them look then how the other person is effected.

Coping Mechanism

Identifying their value with their job description, credentials, what they’ve done, is how they cope with the underlying feelings of being unlovable.

Childhood

The unsupportive, unloving environment led to feeling inadequate and helpless. To compensate they decided they had to do everything on their own. They tried to get loved by being productive.